Music for Unlocking Emotion

Before you read on, please be aware we’ll be exploring grief in this section. It might help you, but if you’re feeling too raw right now, maybe save this for another time.

As my journey with music evolved, I created playlists for everything: fun, focused work, batch cooking meals, getting up in the morning, winding down at night, even for seasonal joy. Music was becoming a fundamental part of my life.

And then my world came tumbling down. My dad became ill. He subsequently died.

At the start of his illness, I knew deep down what was coming. I cried occasionally, but there was work to do, a business to run, family to look after. I kept calm and carried on, burying what I was feeling as deep as I could.

For a while, my grief stayed locked away. Stuffed in the deepest vault inside me. Until it began forcing its way out. Nightmares started. That’s when I knew enough was enough. I needed it out.

But how? I’d talked about it so much I was boring myself. Talking no longer evoked the tears I needed to cry.

Then part of the answer came to me: shower cries.

What are shower cries? Think of the shower disco but for exploring the painful. I picked music that reminded me of my dad, turned the water on, and let it all out. Full-on, nose-running, sobbing cries.

Painful but freeing.

If you’re holding grief, or any other emotion inside you, consider giving yourself permission to feel it. Music can be a safe way to unlock what’s buried. And if it feels too big to face alone, know you’re not meant to. Reach out for support if you need it.

Need Support? Resources for Grief and Emotional Care

If this section brought up strong feelings, you’re not alone. Processing grief is hard, and there’s no shame in needing support. Here are some resources you might find helpful:

💛 Talk to Someone:

• A trusted friend or family member

• Your GP or health provider

• A counsellor or therapist (search locally or try Counselling Directory UK)

📖 Helplines (UK):

• Samaritans: 116 123 (free, 24/7)

• Cruse Bereavement Support: 0808 808 1677